Valentines Day is Hard For Seniors Who Have Lost A Spouse
Valentines Day with its hears, flowers and celebration of coupledom can be difficult for senior citizens who have experienced the loss of a spouse.
The grieving process might be even more difficult for the isolated senior. Many seniors have spent decades sharing their lives with their partners and find it difficult to adjust to a life alone. Valentines Day can make this worse and caregivers may want to be aware of this potential emotional minefield with a view towards helping them through what can be a difficult day.
Especially for those who are dealing with health problems or who may not have the ease of movement they once enjoyed, seniors who find themselves alone after many years as part of a couple may too easily fall into the trap of remaining home alone. The leads to a danger of depression. Seniors should be encouraged in remaining as active as possible. Participating in social activities of all kinds and taking advantage of opportunities to build new friendships and become a part of new communities whether those based on common interests and hobbies, activism, faith or locality is important. This has been proven not only to ease depression and keep loneliness at bay but to improve general health and quality of life for seniors.
How Can You Help?
How can you help a senior who seems to be spending too much time alone after the death of a spouse? Of course loved ones and caregivers should spend as much time as they are able with a senior, but there are other ways to help, too.
Seek out ans share with them books that have helped others find ways to live beyond their grief. It may be even more helpful to spend time together reading from the books and working through memories together.
Research local seniors events and activities...
Get that senior online. Its a new and connected world full of opportunities. Senors are no longer limited to the activities and people they might meet at their local community centre.. Though some might be resistant at first, a few quick lessons or a little assistance will have most seniors chatting away with far flung relatives and new friends, listening to archived music they may remember from childhood days, learning the latest about old interests. Some seniors run successful small businesses from home, others would be valuable mentors to young people starting out in professional fields the senior has retired from. Helping a senior participate in all of this from their home computers can open up whole new worlds and completely change the perspective of someone who might have felt their life was over.
So this Valentines Day if you know an elderly person who might be filling a little sad, reach out. Its easy to make a difference.Back To Top
Tracy Lamourie is the President and Creative Director of Lamourie Public Relations & Marketing. In that world, she represents clients as diverse as politicians, entertainment figures, newsmakers, ethical businesses and not for profit groups whose aims she supports. Tracy also has a lot of media experience - radio, TV, newspapers and new media. She’s worked at various times as a television host, television producer, and radio host. She’s also a human rights and social justice activist with a long history of work on various international and local issues Tracy and her work on various social justice issues have also been featured on television broadcasts as varied as CBC’s The Fifth Estate, Court TV, A & E, CTV across North America.